It can be very frustrating when your loved ones are not seeing things your way or your expectations are constantly seen as unrealistic. It causes massive strain on your well-being and takes up unnecessary energy. We’ve all been there. Maybe you fight with your partner or your mum, then you can’t seem to think about anything else for the rest of the day or week. And maybe it’s the 5th fight this month. We’ve all been there. Or maybe you can’t seem to make progress in any decent relationships. Below I list three strategies for you to tackle your unfulfilling relationships.
Let’s start with why:
There are usually a few reasons why your relationships are not working well. And no, it’s not the other person being ridiculous. Although life would be much easier if we chalk it up to that.
- You may have limiting beliefs about what happiness looks like
- You may have issues with your self-worth and don’t feel deserving of the particular relationship
- You may not be focusing on where your power lies, and you’re trying to control what you can’t
The problem doesn’t lie in the other person, it’s usually internal. Doing some emotional work could help you remove the blocks and give you the fulfilling relationships that you crave.
So here are my suggestions:
- Do some deep work on those limiting beliefs. What is the problem? Why is it a problem? Is it really about the other person or is there something else underlying that you’re afraid to admit?
- Increase your self-worth. Self-worth is very much like a cup of coffee. You need to fill it up as it depletes, or it will get empty. How are you seeing yourself? Are you giving yourself the respect you deserve? Remember, the world will mirror back how you treat yourself.
- Your focus should be on the things you can control. Your thoughts, your emotions, and your vision of what you want the relationship to be like. We all know thoughts and intentions become things, so what are you intending for your relationship? If you expect chaos or sadness, that’s exactly what you will get.
I hope these three strategies to tackle your unfulfilling relationships help you to do some reflection on what isn’t working. If you’re reading this, chances are – the other person is worth it. And I’m here to tell you that YOU are definitely worth it. Put those issues to bed and you won’t have to deal with them for the rest of your life. And if all else fails, at least you know this contrast is inspiring the most beautiful version of that relationship for you to step into.
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