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I’ve been feeling down lately. I’ve been worrying about things outside of my control even though I know how the system works. When you steep yourself in personal development every day the way I do, you become a pretty positive person. Normal stuff that most people would worry about – doesn’t affect me. I’ve stopped judging myself and I’ve worked very hard (for years) on letting go of judging other people too. Now when something happens, I have a rant about it, mull over it for a day or two, then move on with my life because I have better things to do. I’m not downplaying anything, but this is how I’ve trained myself to deal with stuff.
I know that we live in an infinite Universe. And deep down, I know that we are all eternal Beings here on Earth to do what brings us joy and live our greatest lives. But I am also human, just like everyone else. And human things get to me sometimes. So when I’ve been waking up at 5:00 am every morning since the first week of Jan to do yoga in the darkness and go for a morning run – and I look in the mirror and my tummy still doesn’t look the way I want it to look, it hurts. Sure it’s a vanity metric. But it’s MY vanity metric. It’s a goal I set for myself to achieve because I wanted to show myself I could do it. Or when I have worked so hard on the back end to launch some beautiful personal development workbooks to help people, and no one buys it, it hurts.
I know that I shouldn’t let anything in my external environment dictate how I feel and behave. That’s the crux of personal development. I teach this. I coach this. And I live this – most of the time. But sometimes, it’s easier said than done. I’m sure you can relate because you also get frustrated and angry with slow progress. Or what feels like no progress a lot of the time. When you feel so tired, that just showing up for the day is an effort. Or having to sit down at your desk when you see no movement on something makes you cringe so you spend two hours just having coffee after coffee because honestly it’s way more appealing than working on your to-do list. I’ve been there. I’m there right now.
Putting things into perspective
I know it won’t last. I know it will pass. But when you’re in the moment, it feels like everything. Everything you’re working for, striving for, trying so hard to get one step closer to achieving – it’s painful when you see no joy. But I also know how dangerous staying in this slump for weeks on end is. So at times like this, I remind myself of a few things.
1.Life is so short
I’ve had loved ones be taken away from me in the blink of an eye. I know how quickly life ends. And I don’t want to spend one minute more than necessary wasting my life on feeling bad. I can feel the emotions, but my goal is always to move through them and get back to looking forward with my life.
I think about the life I now live. How it was once something I couldn’t even imagine. I didn’t think I would find love, or become a mum – and I’ve been blessed with both of those relationships. My family is amazing and supportive, even if they might not always understand my dreams, they do support me anyway. I do what I love for a living every day of my life. I have such a powerful relationship with my Inner Being and I am so self-aware. It took me years to get here, but I’m here now. So honestly – even if the next thing doesn’t happen, can I say I lived my life and did everything I wanted to? The answer is yes, I did most of everything. And that’s way more than the average person gets to do – so how can I not be grateful for that?
3. Take action from the dream
Changing your life, achieving a goal, following a dream – all require you to become a different version of who you are now. So when you don’t see progress, or things feel stagnant – remember that you’ve already got all of this in your vibrational reality. You’ve already achieved every single thing that you’ve wanted to. Your job as a human is to align with what you want so it can come into your physical reality. So when you do anything, take action knowing you’ve already achieved it on another parallel plane (I’m getting technical with quantum physics here). Abraham Hicks always say that if life gives you a dream, life has the ability to deliver that dream to you as soon as you align with it. And I do believe this. So I can relax knowing that somewhere, somehow – I’ve already become a match to the solutions for my questions. I’ve already become a match to getting what I want.
My wish for you, is relief to find the same. What are the things that pull you out of your slump when you get into one? Do you have a toolbox filled with useful perspectives and insights that you can use when you need to? If not, I strongly encourage you to find a few things that resonate with you. Join my email community, where I share my insights. Or join a community with like-minded people. You’re not meant to do this journey all by yourself and I guarantee that someone else has been where you are.
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