Is there anything in your life that you wish you’d known sooner?

Someone asked me this question the other day and I had to think long and hard about it. I believe our life lessons come when we need them, but there are 5 things that I wish I knew sooner about life that would have made the years a lot smoother than they’ve been. I’m in a great place now with everything I know. I wake up and live my purpose every single day. Nothing makes me happier than teaching and coaching personal development and life skills to others, and helping them to navigate their way through situations so they come out better on top. But my life hasn’t always been like this. There are things I’ve learned that may seem so obvious to some people, but it took me years to pay attention to them.

I’m listing them out here with the intention of helping someone else come to realizations about inner truths they may be ignoring but should be listening to.

1.Pouring from an empty cup is a recipe for disaster

Fill your own cup up first, before you can give to anyone else. It’s not selfish to tend to your needs first. In fact, it’s necessary to be at your best before you can give your best to others around you.

2. Don’t expect anything from anyone

That includes the way they behave. No one should have to act differently just because you prefer them to. Let them off the hook. Instead, go within and look at your boundaries and tolerations. If you can’t handle someone’s behavior, they don’t get to be around you or have the best of you. But having unrealistic expectations will only get you realistic disappointment.

3. Health & well-being should always be the first focus

If we don’t have physical, emotional, and mental health & well-being – we truly have nothing. Make it a priority to live around giving yourself what you need to thrive in all areas of your life – even if you focus on one area at a time to start with.

4. Your path doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s

Overcoming generational trauma and belief systems is so important for you to succeed in where your dreams take you. There is no book of Laws in any world that dictate how your path needs to look. You figure out your own stuff, but keep moving forward. However you decide to do things is really ok.

5. People project where they can’t control

When they’re nasty to you, it’s on them and not on you. They have issues and inner work they need to do. There is nothing wrong with you, and nothing you have to do. So the self-doubt, the insecurity, the feeling like you will never be enough – do yourself a favor and CAN IT. Throw those thoughts away because the real truth – is that you are more than enough, exactly as you are, right now. You don’t need to be more for anyone. And if you think you do – maybe it’s time to book a session with a life coach to get rid of those thoughts once and for all.

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